By MeOhMy Founder Siobhan (@meohmymum)
Our toddler has his fourth ear infection this year with extreme fevers. Yep, four in four months. Brilliant (note, sarcasm!).
We’ve just found out that he most likely needs grommets and his speech is behind for his age. My husband has been away for the last few weeks. So, sleep has been a rarity around here. I’m shattered and it’s only Wednesday :(
But, this isn’t a whinge story. The point is that, while I have a following on social media and like to share the pretty and wonderful moments of parenting, there is a very real side to it too. And this is something that I’m also very passionate about showing.
We mums need to know that we are not alone in having difficulties. If we only show roses and happy times, we’re setting other mums up to feel like failures.
I know myself that seeing beautiful curated pictures by other mums on social media, where the kids are perfectly dressed and well behaved, and the mum is beautifully presented in the latest designer gear, makes me feel inadequate. I do post these types of pics from time to time (when I’ve actually had the time to make us all look on point – a rarity these days!). But a quick scan through my Insta profile would turn up plenty of raw and real moments.
Like the time our newborn decided to reflux non-stop for the first three months and not settle AT ALL in the evening. Not to mention the fact that our then 17 month old was sick with every daycare bug under the sun at the same time. If it wasn’t for coffee, I don’t know what I would have done!
And like when I was throwing up Every.Single.Day during my second pregnancy and Harry (our firstborn) would crawl into the toilet to watch me. Poor little man. And when I was diagnosed with post-natal depression and anxiety after a long time of ‘pushing through’, and finally admitted it – after which many women came to me saying they were also suffering and it helped so much to know they weren’t alone.
Today, there is a lot of pressure to be the perfect mum, with an immaculate house and well-behaved children.
The thing is, no mum has everything perfect. Some just hide the struggles better than others. We all have good and bad days.
We're all on this crazy ride together, mostly winging it! Never feel bad about yourself, you're doing a cracking job.
I’ve joined with S-26 Gold Toddler to celebrate the real life of a parent, without the filters. We’re encouraging you to share ‘parenting truths’ – the chaos, joy, and even the tantrums. Because even the best kids still get into mischief and messes, and it’s totally ok when your child isn’t ‘perfect’.
The nitty gritty
· Head to the S-26 GOLD TODDLER Facebook page, and like it;
· Enter the competition by submitting a photo showing a moment of ‘parenting truth’ – not the polished and posed Instagram shots we all know – with the hashtag #S26truthgram.
· Nominate someone to take the challenge!
· Note, for the competition the photo of the child must be 12+ months and older.
· Prizes include: 3 x FUJIFILM Instax Mini 8 Cameras (one winner per week), plus the overall winner will score a family portrait package to the value of $2,000.
· Winners will be selected based on originality, honesty, audience appeal and authenticity.
· Winners will be announced each week and contacted via Facebook and Instagram.
Can't wait to see your entries!