This week just gone was pretty major for us...
I started this blog 2.5 years ago when I was feeling more than a little lost having gone from my corporate PR and media career to stay at home mum.
Harry, our firstborn, was six months and I just didn't feel like me. I needed to use my brain, and I wanted to write again.
I couldn't find anyone else writing about going through the same sort of transition, from 'manager to mummy' as I called it, so I started writing about it myself. From there, this little blog attracted loads of mums going through the same sort of thing. We formed a little tribe and it was awesome.
But, things have changed.
If you follow me on Insta you'll know I recently made the decision to head back to work.
The mummy Insta world has changed, that's for sure. It's very, very different to how it was when I first started blogging 2.5 years ago, and that's all I'll say about that!
But over and above that, I have changed. And we as a family have. Our priorities have changed.
I'd been thinking hard about the future for our precious babies. What I want to protect them from, if I can, and how to keep giving them the best of everything including my time and quality family time. And also where I personally want to be career wise in the future.
I was offered an absolutely amazing role, something I've always wanted to do. So, this week I headed back into the corporate world.
Many of you have since asked for me to talk about my journey back into the corporate world, just like I spoke about my journey out...so, here you go!
This week just gone was my first week back, four days a week. And wow, it's been amazing already.
Yes, I missed the hell out of my kids. But I also didn't miss them as much as I thought, you know? Because there were so many positives and it mean that when I did see them I was "all there", not frustrated or mentally exhausted from being around them 24/7.
I'm not saying being a working mum is easy. Far from it. Neither is being a stay at home mum. But I think that if you're doing something you love, it just feels right.
My main tips for being a working mum, that I've learned already from just one week, are these:
1. Do something you’re passionate about
It’ll make it more worthwhile. No point spending your life doing something that makes you unhappy, whatever the short term monetary wins (which could be slim anyway by the time you've paid for daycare). I'm an genuinely excited to go to work each day because I love what I do.
2. You need to have a life outside of your kids. Period.
It feels good to be working on something for yourself. To be going somewhere. To have ambition. To wear something other than jeans and stained T-shirts! To enjoy time not attached to a small human. To actually enjoy your coffee while it’s hot, read the news, and use your brain!
3. Get organised
One night, when we got home from work, we'd made the mistake of not having food that was quick to prepare for dinner (it was going to take at least 15 minutes in the oven) and boy did we pay for it. The kids wouldn’t stop crying, then when it was finally ready they wouldn’t eat (as they’d eaten too many rice crackers while they were waiting…).
Needless to say, I won’t make that mistake again. We’re doing big cook-ups twice a week and I’m even going to order YouFoodz, our fave kids meals and get a cleaner. Because, you know, anything to make working mum life a little less of a juggle.
4. Do something just for you, no matter what stage of mum life you're at
To those on mat leave still, or doing the stay at home mum thing – I highly recommend doing something other than just being mum. I know, you might be blissfully happy at home with your babes, I was too. But, what do you have that’s just for you? What makes you feel confident and useful outside of motherhood?
I was surprised just how much I’m using my experiences working from home the last few years in my new role, and how much I referred to the work I’ve done while ‘off with babies’ (hahahaha) in the interview process leading up to it. It’s so so important.
Lastly, I wholeheartedly thank you all for following, supporting, relating, sharing and working with us this far. I'm so happy to have reached so many of you by sharing my experience becoming a stay at home mum then work at home mum, and now back into the workforce!